There’s something I’ve been sitting with lately.
What we hate… stays.
Not because the universe is punishing us.
Not because we’re doing something wrong.
But because energy responds to attention.
And we are energy.
That’s not spiritual poetry — it’s physics.
At the most basic level, everything is made of energy. Matter is energy in a slower, structured form. Physics tells us this. Quantum field theory tells us this. Even biology tells us that our cells communicate through electrical signals and biochemical exchanges that are, at their core, energetic processes.
We are not just solid bodies walking around.
We are electrical, biochemical, vibrational beings having a human experience.
But we’re also soul. Spirit. Consciousness. Memory.
We are both.
And the human experience asks us to balance both.
The Hard Drive and the Heart
I sometimes think of us as living hard drives.
We record everything.
Every belief. Every word spoken over us. Every time we looked in the mirror and judged ourselves. Every moment we said, “I hate this about me.”
That data doesn’t disappear just because we wish it would.
It gets stored.
The nervous system encodes it. The body responds to it. The subconscious organizes around it.
And when the emotion attached to that thought is strong — like hate — the signal is even louder.
Hate is powerful energy.
Not in a mystical sense. In a physiological one.
Strong negative emotion activates the stress response. It increases cortisol. It tightens fascia. It shifts blood flow. It tells the body, “There is danger here.”
When we say, “I hate my belly,” or “I hate my wrinkles,” or “I hate that my skin is sagging,” the body doesn’t interpret nuance.
It interprets threat.
And what does the body do when it senses threat?
It protects.
Belly Fat, Stress, and Protection
Let’s talk about belly fat for a moment.
We criticize it constantly.
But abdominal weight gain is strongly correlated with chronic stress. Elevated cortisol levels are linked to increased visceral fat storage. The body stores energy in the midsection when it believes resources need to be conserved.
Protection.
If you’ve lived through stress, grief, trauma, overwork, motherhood, caregiving, survival — your body may have adapted to hold.
And then we look at that holding and say, “I hate this.”
The stress increases.
The protection increases.
The cycle continues.
It’s not that loving your belly magically melts fat.
It’s that reducing internal threat signals changes the hormonal environment.
When the nervous system softens, cortisol decreases. When cortisol decreases, the body is less likely to cling to protective storage.
Regulation precedes release.
Not punishment.
Wrinkles, Wisdom, and Resistance
The same goes for aging.
In our 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond, the face changes. Skin shifts. Gravity does what gravity does. And instead of seeing wisdom, we see loss.
We resist it.
Resistance is tension.
Tension is stress.
Stress is contraction.
Contraction is holding.
When we can look at our face and say, “These lines are from living,” something softens. Not just emotionally — physically.
The nervous system downshifts when we move from rejection to acceptance.
Acceptance doesn’t mean we stop caring for ourselves. It means we stop fighting ourselves.
And fighting ourselves is exhausting.
Love Is Also Energy
If hate is a strong signal, love is too.
Love activates entirely different physiology. It supports oxytocin release. It lowers stress hormones. It increases parasympathetic activation. It improves heart rate variability.
When we say, “Thank you, body,” instead of “I hate you,” the nervous system hears safety instead of threat.
That doesn’t mean everything changes overnight.
But the environment changes.
And the body responds to environment.
We are not just machines running on chemistry.
We are living systems responding to signals — emotional, electrical, relational.
Science and Spirit Are Not Opposites
There’s a tendency to lean hard in one direction.
Either everything is science and measurable.
Or everything is energy and spiritual.
But the reality is, we are both.
Energy is not a spiritual concept alone. It’s a physical one. Thermodynamics, electromagnetism, cellular signaling — all of it involves energy transfer.
When spiritual traditions speak about vibration, frequency, or high and low energy states, they are often describing physiological experiences in symbolic language.
And when science speaks about nervous system activation and hormonal cascades, it is describing what the body does with those signals.
Different language.
Same system.
We are biological.
We are electrical.
We are emotional.
We are spiritual.
All at once.
What We Focus On, We Reinforce
Neuroscience tells us that what we repeatedly think strengthens neural pathways.
If every day you look at your body with criticism, that pathway strengthens. The brain becomes efficient at noticing flaws.
If you begin practicing gratitude — even awkwardly at first — different pathways begin to form.
This isn’t bypassing reality.
It’s reshaping perception.
And perception influences physiology.
When stress decreases, inflammation decreases. When inflammation decreases, healing becomes more accessible. When the nervous system feels safe, the body stops bracing.
It’s not magic.
It’s adaptation.
The Shift
I’ve seen this happen with women in their 40s, 50s, 60s.
The moment they stop hating their bodies and start listening to them, things shift.
They move differently.
They eat differently — not restrictively, but intuitively.
They sleep better.
They breathe deeper.
They choose movement that feels aligned rather than punishing.
And often — not always dramatically, but steadily — the body responds.
Weight redistributes. Inflammation softens. Skin glows differently.
Because the internal war ended.
And when the war ends, the body no longer has to defend.
You Are Not a Problem to Fix
If you’re reading this and thinking, “I’ve been so hard on myself,” please don’t turn this into another reason to criticize.
Awareness is not shame.
It’s power.
You are not just tissue and bone.
You are electrical signals. Stored memories. Cellular communication. Breath. Thought. Spirit. Matter.
Energy is energy.
And the energy we aim at ourselves matters.
What we hate, we often hold.
What we soften toward, we often release.
Not because the universe rewards us.
But because the body responds to safety.
And love — real love, not forced positivity — is one of the strongest signals of safety there is.
A Gentle Invitation
If you’re in Arvada, Colorado and living with chronic pain, vibroacoustic therapy may offer a supportive, nervous-system–based approach to relief.
At True You Collective, our pain-focused sessions use a 40–75 Hz low-frequency blend designed to support tissue softening, fascia response, and nervous system regulation.
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Pain doesn’t always need to be fought.
Sometimes it needs the nervous system to feel safe enough to let go.
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